tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8231814617940843078.post1922544674281285219..comments2012-08-09T04:21:14.678-07:00Comments on Mothers Have Feelings Too!: LaLa landElana Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10528575966045616168noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8231814617940843078.post-19971012883748893132012-06-10T23:27:40.169-07:002012-06-10T23:27:40.169-07:00Thank you for your well-thought out comment! You&#...Thank you for your well-thought out comment! You're absolutely right that I would not be able to go out to "girls nights" 3 times a week. Once a week or every other week might be nice though! As for hosting kids, I do understand that it's difficult. What if they spit up or poop?! :-) And yes, good friends will stick with you no matter what. I suppose I was surprised though that marriage + kids turned into a test of friendships.<br />Please share this blog with your friends if you think they'll enjoy it!Elana Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10528575966045616168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8231814617940843078.post-20937556105497317812012-06-10T12:41:53.256-07:002012-06-10T12:41:53.256-07:00Great post. Some comments:
* You are to be commen...Great post. Some comments:<br /><br />* You are to be commended for reaching out to your friends who are in different life stages than you are. Married friends often get a bad rap for neglecting their still-single friends, so kol hakavod for turning that around.<br /><br />* Your friends might just be respecting the boundaries of your marriage and child(ren). Would you be thrilled if they were inviting you out for girls-only dinner dates three times a week (or even if they wanted to include your husband and/or daughter)? They probably do not perceive you as being as available as you once were, and so they act accordingly. Like you said, it would be hard to keep up that kind of social calendar, anyway. <br /><br />* Hosting young kids can be intimidating for someone who doesn't have kids of their own (my husband is great about it, but I always get nervous about what they will and won't eat and how much of a mess they'll make).<br /><br />* I think that you're right about people growing apart -- in some cases. We move through different life stages: high school, seminary, college, newly wed, young parents, parents of school-age kids, parents of teens, etc. etc. and often also move to different cities, change jobs, etc. In the course of all of that, it is only natural that you will grow in and out of friendships. Even with Facebook, there is just only so much a person can do to maintain friendships with people from so many crowds and cities! But:<br /><br />* Some friendships really are the kind that last through anything. I have friends who are married with two or three kids, friends who are married without kids, and friends who are single, but at the end of the day, my best friends are my best friends -- no matter which stage they're in and how "far" it is from the one I'm in.Avitalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08190669459184539805noreply@blogger.com